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The International Planned Parenthood Foundation released a report,  “Stand and Deliver: Sex, Health and Young People in the 21st Century,” which classifies children as “sexual beings” and promotes “pleasurable sexual lives” in children as young as 10 years old – mere sexual objects to be exploited.

This should make parents across the nation feel really comfortable with their school’s Planned-Parenthood-comprehensive-condom-based-safe-sex-if-it-feels-good-to-children curriculum, now shouldn’t it? YIKES! Parents, keep your children and schools far away from the sexually debased Planned Parenthood organization.

Jeanne Monahan, Director of the Center for Human Dignity at the Family Research Council, has perhaps the most concise observations about Planned Parenthood’s true agenda:

“This report isn’t about doing what is right for young people and certainly not about offering them the very best options in life. It is about advancing an ideological agenda that is hostile to traditional families, religious faith and the good of children.

“‘Stand and Deliver’ dangerously oversexualizes children as young as ten. Not only are the recommendations developmentally inappropriate, but they advocate behaviors in ten year-olds that can lead to such disturbing problems as pedophilia and statutory rape. Why can’t Planned Parenthood let kids be kids?

“Polls show parents overwhelmingly believe that sex education should reflect the values taught at home. However, Planned Parenthood’s report downplays the role of parents in transmitting values to their children. …”  Read FRC’s entire press release …

 Parents, you are the primary communicators to children about sex. Be intentional about communicating your family values, and don’t hesitate to express your approval and disapproval of certain behaviors.

More on Planned Parenthood 

• Planned Parenthood’s Campus Crusade
• Leaving Planned Parenthood (Part 1 of 2)
• The Planned Parenthood, Kinsey Morality Heist
• Planned Parenthood’s Origins (chart)
• Condom Cover-Up
• Take Twelve: Top 12 Sexual Myths Refuted
  

Sex is a tough subject to approach with your children, no doubt. You stutter, they squirm. But if parents don’t present the truth about sex and solid family values, plenty of sexually harmful messages are waiting in the shadows, classrooms and school halls.

Recent research in Pediatrics indicates that teen sexual activity is beginning before parents ever approach the subject – not good!

Research Findings:

• Less than one-third of parents had ever talked to their children about reasons for not having sex.
• By the time teens were engaging in genital touching with a partner, only 17% of parents had talked to their girls and 6% to their boys about how to refuse unwanted sexual advances.
• Parents had not yet discussed refusal skills and the importance of not pressuring a partner into sex in about 25% of girls and 40% of boys by the time that they had engaged in sexual intercourse.

The Talk:

Be open, vulnerable, get involved and be real. Don’t be afraid to laugh and admit it’s awkward. This is one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have with your child.

Good resources for quick information:

• Dear Parents – Let’s Talk About Doing
• Before The Talk: Dealing with Our Past
• Talking to Pre-Teen or Teen About Waiting
• Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)
• Sex is never “safe,” even with a condom or the pill
• The Medical Institute- information on sexually transmitted diseases
• The Medical Institute FAQ
• STD Wizard can calculate risks of sexual behaviors (a real eye-opener for teens)
• Trouble with pornography? Visit Pure Intimacy
• Tough questions, good answers
• Teen Sexual Behavior Quick Facts
• Oral Sex Quick Facts

Golf champion, Tiger Woods, became a legacy on the green, but he certainly didn’t model his moral code after NBA Lakers’ champion, A.C. Green. Sexual secrets have a way of rising to the surface, and now Woods has much regret and much to repair.

Sports reporter, Chris Erskine of the Los Angeles Times, contrasts Lakers’ national champion, A.C. Green to golf pro, Tiger Woods. Despite years of temptation and being in the national spotlight, A.C. Green was a virgin when he married – even after 40 years.

Young singles, be encouraged by Green’s story and ask yourself, who’s living a happier life: Tiger Woods or A.C. Green? Sex has consequences, so save it for a stable, faithful, committed marriage. A.C. Green did – for more than 40 years! If you want the best, most satisfying sex without the hardships and negative consequences, order’s important. First a faithful, loving, committed marriage, then great, satisfying sex can blossom.

Popular culture tells us that if the sex is good, the relationship will also be good. What a crock! Any physically healthy male and female can have sex, but where’s the commitment, love and promise of a future? 

No, a “good relationship” is not defined by sex. Rather, great sex is a byproduct of a great, stable and loving relationship. The sexual act without relationship and commitment is void of meaning and has no long-term satisfaction. Don’t you want more – the best?

My advice? Follow Green’s example.

Read the full article, Tiger Woods, meet A.C. Green [Los Angeles Times, 12-10-2009].

Question: Should we keep pouring taxpayer money into treating the symptoms of casual sex (like the current healthcare bill), or should we cut to the root of the problem, addressing behavior modification?

If we continue to promote – and treat symptoms of – casual sex, groups like Planned Parenthood and other “free-sex” advocates will remain self-perpetuating storms.

Their “business,” if you will, is promoting casual sex.  They work to make risky behavior acceptable and then they get paid to “fix” the problems. Sex is the goal in their agenda, and pushing condoms is their method. Symptom treatment is a vacuous black hole for healthcare funding that never ends.

Conversely, if we cut to the root of the problem by modifying culture and changing sexual behavior, taxpayers and government stand to save money. Character-based abstinence education seeks to achieve this objective.

But there’s another twist: couples are getting married later – 26 for women, 28 for men. Brad Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project, describes how the courtship narrative in former generations was set: dating, engagement, marriage and then children. Now the narrative is disrupted by a tenuous time gap, leaving 20-somethings in a “relational wasteland.”  Some recommend earlier marriage as a solution.

Casual sex and cohabitation have not proven to be effective substitutes for the long-term stability and contentment of lifelong marriage. But they have successfully spread sexual diseases and created unplanned pregnancies. 

So, do we keep promoting casual sex, treating and repeating the symptoms? Or cut to the heart of the issue and address behavior, possibly encouraging earlier marriage?

More …
Capitol Research Center – What type of sex education really pays off?

A common defense of pornography is that it is a private activity or a choice among consenting adults. In the wi-fi age, this is no longer true. Washington Post staff writer Monica Hesse examines the trend of viewing pornography on public transportation. People are being held captive to public porn use on planes, trains and automobiles, which leaves it neither private nor consenting. She writes:

Perhaps this is the real problem: the increasingly blurred boundary between public and private. If we are so accustomed to burying our noses in tiny screens, carrying our entertainment in and out of the house, perhaps people are simply getting confused as to where they are.

The confusion over private and public boundaries conforms to porn’s design. Pornography inspires a self-centered “taking” approach to sex, so viewing it in public is a logical extension of this narcissistic impulse made possible through better technology. After all, as every porn fantasy teaches, it’s all about ME.

Women are bearing the disproportionate burden of negative consequences from the “casual-sex” revolution, but a feminist group at Harvard, ironically, is upset about an increasingly popular movement that empowers both women and men to say “No” to sex. Makes you scratch your head, doesn’t it?

Consider that two of every five babies (40%) are born to unwed mothers who will likely not finish college and have to raise a child alone – at or near poverty.  Meanwhile, Biological “Dad” jumps into the sack with the next girl and the pattern continues. Another young lady’s potential is stunted and one more child goes fatherless.

Just one dorm room over, Dan Disease is sharing HPV, Chlamydia, Syphilis and possible exposure to HIV with Emily, his sixth sexual conquest this year. “Hooking up,” it’s what every sexually liberated man and woman wants, right? I’m still scratching my head.

Hmm … but could the “free-sex” model be an ill-constructed failure? Research is showing that “hook-ups” don’t satisfy and there’s more to sex than, well, just having more sex. The human brain is actually wired to have one mate for life, according to the most recent research.

Sex is more than a physical act – it’s intellectual, ethical, social, emotional and spiritual as well. Although the brain rewards humans for having sex (dopamine reward), brain chemicals are “values neutral,” in that they cannot distinguish between good, bad, healthy or unhealthy behaviors.
 
Freedom is as much the ability to choose something as it is to choose NOT to do something. If life had a rewind button, more than a few sexually active, unmarried women would choose NOT to repeat careless decisions regarding sex.

NYC Planned Parenthood says parents want – and need – their version  of sex taught.

But do parents really want the chief abortion provider, Planned Parenthood, teaching their sons and daughters to have casual sex, use condoms and get abortions? Do parents really want to be excluded from sexual-reproductive “services” that Planned Parenthood is offering to their kids? According to Planned Parenthood of NYC, parents want this – and, to legitimize their presence in schools, they’re calling it Sex Ed.

What a joke. Parents should be their kids’ primary teachers when it comes to imparting values and views on sexuality – not Planned Parenthood. Research tells us  the majority of moms and dads want their sons and daughters to remain abstinent and reserve sex for their future spouse – not jeopardize their future well-being through casual sexual encounters.

According to the CDC Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey of 2007, more than half of 9-12 graders (52%) have never had sex. But after the sexual temptations of high school, nearly two out of three seniors have had sex at least once by the time they graduate.

Planned Parenthood encourages casual, teen sex and exploits “accidents” – or teen pregnancies (potential abortions). Their irresponsible promotion of consequence-free, ”safe,” latex sex never will protect teens, but it does protect their pocketbooks by funding their dark, exploitive “business.” 

Kids need their parents’ involvement to avoid a Pandora’s Box of sexual devastation. Parents help teens discern sexual dangers and create healthy boundaries to ensure successful futures – Planned Parenthood and condoms do not.

Policy: No sex while the other roommate is in the room, and no sexual activity should interfere with a roommate’s privacy, study, or sleep.

There’s obviously a problem at Tufts, and it’s not the only college facing such awkward dilemmas. In fact, on most Friday nights many college dormitories bear a greater resemblance to Chicago taverns and Nevada brothels than to supposed scholarly institutions.

Culture has transformed sex from a private, sacred act – within the confines of marriage – to a public display of privates, particularly in college dorms.

For those college students majoring in Libertine Dorm Sex, a bit of education may prove beneficial:

• About two-thirds of all college students are sexually active (yes, a third actually are not having sex), and one in three college students have had sex with six or more different people – yuck!
• Nearly two out of every five births are to unmarried women, and the majority of unwed pregnancies occur in college-age women, 20 to 24 years of age.
• HIV/AIDS incidence nearly triples from high school to college-aged populations. One-fourth of HIV/AIDS-infected people are undiagnosed, and most remain sexually active.
• HPV vaccines only protect women against four of the forty or so known strains of HPV (13 high-risk strains total), and condoms offer little to no protection against HPV’s genital warts and cervical cancer.

College students having sex should evaluate their risk of STD infection with the CDC’s STD Wizard.  Better yet, save sex for marriage!

The international press has been making hay and garnering laughs over the novel idea that sexuality and spirituality are deeply connected. A new Prayer Book for Spouses, published by the Catholic Truth Society includes a “prayer before making love.” It begins with:

Father, send your Holy Spirit into our hearts. Place within us love that truly gives, tenderness that truly unites, self-offering that tells the truth and does not deceive, forgiveness that truly receives, loving physical union that welcomes. …

For many, the idea of kneeling down in prayer before marital intimacy is a laugher. Yet, many Christians pray over their food, for a headache to go away, or for a better job to come along—things that generally aren’t considered sacred. Is it so strange to consider praying before entering into communion that runs so deep that two spouses are considered to be one flesh? God made humans in His image—intentionally male and female—and gave them a sacred command to increase and multiply. He likens marital love—in all its dimensions—to the relationship between Christ and the Church. The love of Christ is self-giving, sacrificial, free, total and faithful. Christ’s love welcomes us as we are, despite what sin and wretchedness we bring with us. Why wouldn’t we want our marriages to be built on this kind of love?

You might want to sit down for this one. Then again, you probably don’t read standing up. Just prepare yourself. A BBC reporter investigating the pornography industry recounts how his trip from the heart of darkness (Los Angeles, of course) to a remote Ghanian village finally revealed the terrible impact of pornography to him. He writes:

The village has no electricity, but that doesn’t stop a generator from being wheeled in, turning a mud hut into an impromptu porn cinema – and turning some young men into rapists, with villagers relating chilling stories of assaults taking place straight after the film’s end.

After detonating the first atomic bomb, Dr. Oppenheimer reportedly quoted this line from the Bhagavad-Gita: “Now I am become Death, the destroyer of worlds.”

All Americans should chant this collectively. We destroy the world with our pornography and praise ourselves for protecting so-called free speech. Except, obscenity is not protected by the First Amendment. Much of the destruction we export could be stopped if we simply enforced our laws. Is anybody listening?

One final note: This reporter seems to indicate that the worst thing about American porn is that the “actors” aren’t wearing condoms. This is no small matter in AIDS-ravaged Africa, but sexual assault, the humiliation of women, and all-around perversity of pornographic sex is not made acceptable simply by introducing a condom.